Would You Date Somebody MUCH Older/Younger?

[Airhead 0]

Especially when you get to be 30+ it seems to become a BIG issue! Being single, I've been thinking about it lately. AND as a woman, I sometimes I wonder if I should even tell? my age! It really doesn't seem to be an issue so Why even bring it up? I'm learning, that sometimes you really shouldn't put limitations on the people in your life.
How much of an age difference is too much of an age difference or does it matter? LIke when? Why? What do you got to say on this?
I'm curious...

[cbain 0]

I'm dating someone 8 years older than me now. We don't have a problem with it. But now if you're talking 20+ years difference, I'm not so sure.

Christina

[Dumpster 0]

Age is reletive- My wife is about 7 years older than I. (I'm 40, she'll be 47 in December-) Neither of look our age or act like it. I really don't think it matters as along as both are happy, and no laws are being broken. But I do think it strange when some one 21 is dating some one in the 60's.

Easy Does It

[CanuckInUSA 0]

Earlier this week I took a girl who happens to be ten years younger than myself to an Avs NHL hockey game and age really didn't factor into the evening very much because:
1) I look and act a lot younger than I really am.
2) This girl is in her late 20s and it's not like she's never been around the block.
3) I hate to say it, but I'm more attracted to the women in their late 20s and early 30s than someone who is either my age or older. But I will date someone who is older if they convey the right youthful attitude which is compatible with mine.
Now I did have a good time with this girl, but she is a whuffo.

Try not to worry about the things you have no control over

[Sonic 0]

I went out with a 27 year old when I was 19 for a few weeks.

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It's like something out of that twilighty show about that zone

[weegegirl 2]

It doesn't matter. It really doesn't matter. Age is a number. If you only have 50 jumps, would you refuse to jump with someone who has 400 jumps? NO! As long as both of you are into the same things and looking to have some fun... who cares. I always end up with guys who are older than me. Right now, my skydivah is 11 years older than me. It bugged me out at first, but in the long run, it doesn't matter, as long as you are having fun.

[quade 4]

Reminds me of the Sophie Tucker joke . . .

Sophie said,

"I was in bed last night with my boyfriend Earnie and he said 'Soph!'' He always calls me 'Soph.' He said, 'Soph, when I'm 80 years old I will get myself a 20-year-old girlfriend.'

And I said, 'Earnie, when I'm 80 years old I'll get myself a 20-year-old boyfriend.'

'And let me tell you something Earnie. 20 goes into 80 a hell of a lot more than 80 goes into 20!"

quade -
The World's Most Boring Skydiver

[sunshine 2]

I would love to date a much much older man with a weak heart...as long as he signs his money over to me, it's all good!!

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meow

I get a Mike hug! I get a Mike hug!

[Daizey 0]

hehe, I am 17 and my last boyfriend was 26....surprisingly it didn't have much of an effect.....

*daizey*

[pyke 0]

Well, that is an interesting topic....

I have wondered it myself too.

I almost got into something with a 32 yr old woman (I am 28) and she had 2 problems with it - thus nothing got started (#1 we worked together-the biggest issue, and #2 the age). I didn't see it as a barrier, but if it was how she felt, then who was I to argue??

I was in a long term relationship with someone 5+ yrs younger and that got to be a bit annoying at times as she couldn't really "get" me at times. I have also had an affair with someone who exactly doubled my age at the time, and while we had a firey chemistry (read: GREAT SEX!)- I couldn't really relate to her sometimes (her youngest kid was a year older than I). That ended without incident - perhaps we both saw it wasn't there.

I think above all else it is a timing thing. If it feels right, plays out right, and doesn't adversely affect either of you - then your age (both of you) is insignificant. I don't think you need to 'hide' your age ever - as that doesn't promote the trust element of the relationship, which is paramount.

So, if you're wondering - I would say don't worry about it and just go with it. If you're in a position that this could turn into something soon - I would advise you to ask yourself how you feel about it - really. Given your age - are you looking for some fun, or something more definate. Find out what the other person is after and if you both match - then WONDERFUL and ENJOY!!! If you both approach it from different angles - you already have problems greater than age.

anyway, that is the best I can do in this state of mind, but remember....you're asking skydivers - and that already has problems!!!!!

Kahurangi e Mahearangi,
Kiwi, RB #926, AFF-I, FAA Snr. Rigger, RN/BSN/Paramedic

[happythoughts 0]

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I would love to date a much much older man with a weak heart...as long as he signs his money over to me, it's all good!!

Sweeeeet...and I appreciate you offering to pay off my credit card bills (that would be all my money). I was planning on being buried face down so that the Visa card people could come by and kiss my butt. Would you take a check?

[Cajones 0]

My girl is 9 years younger than I am. Never really considered it a factor for or against her. She's got everything I want/need, so I don't care how many birthdays she's had.

The laws of physics are strictly enforced.

[AirTime 0]

My wife is 12 years younger than me. I almost didn’t go on a second date with her I was so worried about our age difference. Good thing I did. Now I’m married to the most beautiful, caring loving, exquisite, attractive, charming…oops…there I go, getting carried away again. As I was saying. Now I’m married to the most perfect woman in the world, for me. So, does age matter? It does to some, it doesn’t to others. And sometimes it doesn’t matter and you don’t even know it.

The Paranoids are after me! The Paranoids are after me!

[Galen 0]

I'm 28 and I date a 36/37 year old for almost a year. When I first met her I took her for 31 or 32. The age never really got in the way. In ten years.. hard to say. If I were 35 and she was 43 it may have been different.

Respect the Dolphin

[wmw999 2,334]

"much" older or younger really depends on how old you are, and how old both you and the other party feels or acts.
Unless your age is in the single digits, I wouldn't put 4 years as much older or younger. And we can't talk about that kind of relationship on dz.com without breaking the rules. My ex-husband was 5 years younger than I, and it never dawned on me to call him even significantly younger.
"much" is on the order of half of your current age or more, or 15+ years anyway. I dated a guy who was 10 years older off and on for about a year when I was 19. But we worked together, and it didn't feel like that big a difference (although I think it did to him sometimes ).
Would I date them for awhile? Much older would have to be awfully active to be interesting. Much younger would have a hard time being real interesting to me, and me being interested in their world, unless things were just right. I've been in that world, and they're not necessarily in mine yet. But a date? Hey, that's sometimes just a matter of whether they look interesting enough for an evening (or if they look like Keanu Reeves or Sean Connery, they don't even have to look interesting )
Wendy W.

There is nothing more dangerous than breaking a basic safety rule and getting away with it. It removes fear of the consequences and builds false confidence. (tbrown)

[Galen 0]

I live in Sarasota Florida so there are a lot of women that have sugardaddys. 30 year old women, 60 year old (wealthy) man. that sort of thing.

Respect the Dolphin

[Rdutch 0]

Hmm No Comment.
Ray

Ray
Small and fast what every girl dreams of!

[Viking 0]

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hehe, I am 17 and my last boyfriend was 26....surprisingly it didn't have much of an effect.....

good lord your young!!!

I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver
My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin

[mouth 0]

I've dated younger guys lots. I don't act 38, I don't look 38 so why limit myself to 38? Not many females can pull of dating a guy half their age so I say if you can do it and enjoy it by all means go for it.

This is not to say I haven't dated guys my age and older too. Age is really just a hangup of the mind anyway.

The only thing I wouldn't do is date a guy for his money. Now for sex..........

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Hot Mama
At least you know where you stand even if it is in a pile of shit.

[happythoughts 0]

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I live in Sarasota Florida so there are a lot of women that have sugardaddys. 30 year old women, 60 year old (wealthy) man. that sort of thing.

For Sarasota, that is so true. There is a large number of millionaires there, per capita, but not much industry. I ran a real-estate analysis on the area. Property over $2mil. Huge report. It's been said that there are two types of people in Sarasota, millionaires and the people who bring them drinks.
The beaches are awesome, but not much in the way of jobs.

[Airhead 0]

When I first was in the single scene I tended to go out with older guys, like in their late twenties, or so. I was in the army in my twenties, and most of the guys I went out with were younger guys, youngest then was something like 8 years younger.
Really never seemed to be an issue until I dated a guy 24 to my 29. His folks kinda freaked when I meet them. Were sweet as can be til they asked me how old I was- then the room turned artic! Whoa! Obvious disproval. I think it's a more stressful sitation when the guy is younger than the woman. That was the last time it was an issue til now.
I look and act younger than my # age. Now that I've finally really been able to work thru my post-divorce baggage(it's been a while!), I'm ready to move on. I guess my options are open. Personally, I am not closed to going out with a guy just because of his age.

[Daizey 0]

hehe. Thought age wasn't an issue anymore???? hahaha

*daizey*

[Viking 0]

hahaha it isn't i am just being a smartass

I swear you must have footprints on the back of your helmet - chicagoskydiver
My God has a bigger dick than your god -George Carlin

[Daizey 0]

hehe

*daizey*

[AirTime 0]

I think you should treat dating like a smorgasbord. Try someone younger, try someone older, and then everything in-between. And when you find what you like, go back for seconds.

The Paranoids are after me! The Paranoids are after me!